I believe that there are more of you out that are not aware that the Child Support System is one of the only systems that for the most part does not see gender, race, or financial circumstances. A lot of women do not realize that D.C.S.E. issues rules, and consequences that do not just affect the males. There are currently women serving jail time for "Not being able (key words not able) to meet certain financial standards when it comes to the well being of their children." Most times if a woman is in jail for this, there was what I consider to be a (word for female dog) butt man that got his lawyers to put her there. In my eyes personally, I believe it is wrong to let the state come out on top when it comes to child support. No one should be jailed regardless to if they can pay and will not, or they want to pay but can't. The only being that I have ever known to fully forgive and wipe slates clean is Jesus Christ. But when one enters a jail cell, it is true that they have time if they are there for not wanting to pay to think and possibly turn over a new leaf, but it's no sense in trying to turn over a new leaf at this point because they've now obtained a felony on their record and now whether it is a minimum wage or high salary job that they seek or qualify for, the odds are almost always going to be against them; so now with their changed heart and clarity it is just that much harder for them to do what is "right" by the child. Let's keep in mind that while they were locked up by the state, the jail or prison they were in certainly got paid for filling that cell/bed. What did the child get or have a chance of getting once that parent (mom or dad) was taken away? What about the parent that wanted to pay but either couldn't find a job or was laid off, now they are in jail for circumstances beyond their control, and now there is a felony for non-support on his or her record.
I understand that quality time doesn't take the place of financial support, I never said it should. But.....if the parent CANNOT pay, but is willing to be at home and provide quality time because it is the most they can offer while the other parent works or job hunts because neither of you can afford daycare, or take walks and teach the child or children life lessons then so be it. To say that quality doesn't matter when that is all one is capable of is absurd. I was once a single mother, I have witnessed both sides. I believe that both parents should put in equal efforts when it comes to their kids, but if the case is that the other parent truly cannot pay what the courts deem sufficient and they are truly doing their best, NO WAY should I introduce them to the modern day slavery system designed for all genders and races for something they have no control over, and even if they just don't want to pay, I am not God, and am not anyone's judge or jury. They will ultimately get what they deserve, but best believe so will those who had a hand in sending them away.
God Bless
Though I can't speak from personal experience I have had several family members get pulled into court for child support (even fathers who actually were giving money to begin with). My best suggestion is try and keep the court's out of it as much as possible, if you know your child's father or mother is dramatic and prone to immature impulsive actions make sure you take the initiative and give them money every month in the form of a check (keep receipts people). If you really want to keep yourself safe, get yourself a lawyer and set up your own payment plan even if the child is with the other parent. That way your covered no matter what the other party may try to pull years later.
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