Be Careful Where You Shine the Light

I will keep this short and sweet at this hour.  To those of you that are quick to pass judgement before knowing all of one's circumstances, be very careful.  As you are shining the light on one to say what he or she is or is not doing, the light could just as easily be turned around and before you know it, you are now in the spotlight.

I understand that women are the majority(key word, majority) as it relates to being affected by  receiving or not receiving child support payments, so right now it is the women I speak to.  The injustice that men receive who truly cannot afford to pay what some of us deem sufficient has just gone too far.  There are many women that have thankfully not allowed the courts into their lives, but little do they know, eventually the courts may just decide to interject themselves.  There are women that have made it know the struggles they are going through to take care of their children and believe that if they can do it why can't the father of the child or children.  Well be careful, that struggle that you are going through while trying to send the father away or open up doors for him to suffer extreme consequences can certainly turn around on you.  You see yourselves as being strong and doing what it takes because as women, especially because the child is usually with us, well that is just what we do.  Remember though, our strength, if the door is opened, can be turned on us and made to look like a weekness. Just be careful when broadcasting your financial situations as well as your living situations, that the dad you condem for possible doing the best he can could just as easily put you in the hot seat. 

Call me old fashioned but I firmly believe in the golden  rule: Do unto others, as you want them to do unto you.  I know myself from experience that I always wanted my child to see me as strong and determined.  It never mattered what her dad was or wasn't doing, I still had to do what I had to do to make sure we both lived good lives.  Throughout all of the sacrifes and going without that I had to endure I know that I am a stronger and better person.  It is important I believe to not have to answer the question of , "Mommy why, why did you take my dad from me?" At the end of the day, I still win.  I look wonderful in my Lord and Saviours eyes and I remain my child's hero.

This wasn't as short as I thought it was going to be but what the hey.

God Bless